Being the Mediator: Harmony

By: Megan [Input | Strategic | Futuristic | Individualization | Activator]

HARMONY: People who are especially talented in the Harmony theme look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement (StrengthsQuest).

Harmony

People with Harmony are very good at keeping the peace. Whether it’s mediating disputes or getting two different groups to work together, people with Harmony are the ones who see both sides, and attempt to get others to see them too. They are the perfect person to have in a collaboration effort, as they will strive to get groups to meet halfway. Harmonizers often see the things people have in common, and will use that to connect people in the midst of a dispute.

For example, those with Harmony will sit calmly at a meeting in which two developers are arguing over what design is better, and try to help them decide on a design that combines the best of both. When someone is venting at them, they will listen and nod, and then try to get them to look at it a different way, whether to solve the problem or just calm them down. Now that you know what Harmony is, what do you do to work with and develop it?

As someone with Harmony, planning your career path to make sure things go smoothly may be helpful. The knowledge and experience from a Career Counselor may help you as you make decisions. Talk to people that work in jobs that you’re thinking about and ask them what they find rewarding about their job. Think about taking the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to find what working environment works best with your personality.

Jobs that involve working with people may be a good fit. With your ability to see sides, tolerance, and willingness to compromise, you’ll be a good person to have on the team (In order to complement your skills, you’ll want an Activator or Command on the team to, in order to keep the pace moving and settle disputes that can’t be mediated). Find an environment where the general consensus makes the decisions, and you can work behind the scenes to help make that consensus. Structure is important to: a job where things are regular and stable may be more to your liking than one that is always changing and causing upheaval.

Trying Honing your Harmony skill with these tips:

  1. Work with diverse groups, it’ll help with your mediating skills
  2. Let your opinion be known if you disagree. Sometimes, that can lead to a win-win situation more than being quiet.
  3. Know when conflict is necessary, and team up with those that can help
  4. Remember: Having Harmony is NOT avoidance of conflict, don’t let others (or yourself) get away with dissing your Strength!

Helpful handout: Developing Your Strength: Harmony

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