Positivity & Harmony: A Deadly Combination

By: Logan

In the Career and Internship Services office, we focus a lot on our strengths. This year I have looked into these strengths more than I have ever before. I think by looking at your own strengths it can not only help you by helping yourself see these strengths and apply them, but it can also help you by identifying your weaknesses. I also have found it helpful to look at the effects of two different strengths on every day situations. All of this information can be helpful in your knowledge of personal development.

Sometimes having certain strengths can make a situation more difficult. In my own experience I have had discrepancies because of where my strengths lie. Two of my highest strengths are harmony and positivity, and I am not complaining about this, but sometimes they can be troublesome. Since positivity is one of my top strengths, I strive for a positive environment. Being in a negative workplace or environment would be physically and emotionally draining for me. This is why I enjoy working here at Career & Internship Services and my job at a Golf Course, because they are overall positive work environments. For a brief period I was considering going into alcohol and drug counseling, because I find the subject of chemical dependency to be very fascinating. But with my knowledge of strengths I knew going into a job where the subject matter is mostly negative would probably not be ideal for me.

As I said earlier, harmony is also one of my top strengths. Now there is nothing wrong with harmony, but sometimes it can get in the way of things. Since I score high in harmony I prefer an environment where people get along and work together well. In the past I have worked in jobs where employees would bicker or talk behind each others backs, and I did not enjoy those situations. I am the type of person who tries to be nice to everyone, so when I was brought into these fights between coworkers I felt very uncomfortable and it made my experience there much more stressful. But having harmony can also be tough in other situations, such as confrontation. Since I like for everyone to be on good terms, I find it hard to confront people about big issues. I am not saying I completely abstain from confronting anyone, I just find it uncomfortable and try to avoid it if possible. This is why I would prefer to work in a workplace where there is positivity and harmony.

I think it is essential to know your owns strengths and weaknesses to see what kind of work environment you would prefer to work in. After I assessed my strengths I could see I would prefer to work in an environment that is positive and harmonious. If I had not looked into these strengths I may have made the mistake of going into a less positive job. Yes, the combination of positivity and harmony can be deadly, but it also allows me to create a positive and healthy environment for the other people I work with.

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Being the Mediator: Harmony

By: Meg [Input | Strategic | Futuristic | Individualization | Activator]

HARMONY: People who are especially talented in the Harmony theme look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement (CliftonStrengths for Students).

List of Strengths; Harmony in green

People with Harmony are very good at keeping the peace. Whether it’s mediating disputes or getting two different groups to work together, people with Harmony are the ones who see both sides and attempt to get others to see them too. They are the perfect person to have in a collaboration effort, as they will strive to get groups to meet halfway. Harmonizers often see the things people have in common and will use that to connect people in the midst of a dispute.

For example, those with Harmony will sit calmly at a meeting in which two developers are arguing over what design is better, and try to help them decide on a design that combines the best of both. When someone is venting at them, they will listen and nod, and then try to get them to look at it a different way, whether to solve the problem or just calm them down. Now that you know what Harmony is, what do you do to work with and develop it?

As someone with Harmony, planning your career path to make sure things go smoothly may be helpful. The knowledge and experience of a Career Counselor may help you as you make decisions. Talk to people who work in jobs that you’re thinking about and ask them what they find rewarding about their job. Think about taking the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to find what working environment works best with your personality.

Jobs that involve working with people may be a good fit. With your ability to see sides, tolerance, and willingness to compromise, you’ll be a good person to have on the team (In order to complement your skills, you’ll want an Activator or Command on the team to, in order to keep the pace moving and settle disputes that can’t be mediated). Find an environment where the general consensus makes the decisions, and you can work behind the scenes to help make that consensus. Structure is important to: a job where things are regular and stable may be more to your liking than one that is always changing and causing upheaval.

Trying Honing your Harmony skill with these tips:

  1. Work with diverse groups, it’ll help with your mediating skills
  2. Let your opinion be known if you disagree. Sometimes, that can lead to a win-win situation more than being quiet.
  3. Know when conflict is necessary, and team up with those that can help
  4. Remember: Having Harmony is NOT avoidance of conflict, don’t let others (or yourself) get away with dissing your Strength!

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